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Leah Koenig's avatar

Thank you for putting into words what is in so many of our hearts.

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Andy Bachman's avatar

Thank you, Leah. Love to Yoshie and the family.

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Leslie DR's avatar

Thank you, Andy, for putting these thoughts and these authors in my path, as I also encounter the grenades.

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Paul Zakrzewski's avatar

Really beautiful and thoughtful, Andy. I'm thankful to Erika Dreyfus for pointing me here.

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Andy Bachman's avatar

Thank you Paul — very good to hear from you and I hope you’re well in these troubling times.

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Paul Zakrzewski's avatar

Likewise, Andy. I really appreciate your voice right now!

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Lamed Vovnik 36's avatar

Dear Doctor

My eyes have been bothering me of late

somewhat red

often dry

at times too wet

By nightfall I know the sandman's role in sleep

and by morning tiny rocks roll out

from eyelids and corners

I could get a prescription

or opt for over-the-counter

shelves stocked full with eye drops

from chemical laden to “all natural”

I've even laid down good money for the latter

but gave it up after a few tries having

figured out what the trouble might be

It's all about tears

I think I need to cry more

to water my eyes

permitting sadness and grief

to be themselves

That there is so much to cry about

is reason enough to cry

of course care must be taken

to prevent a pre-existing condition

from becoming a permanent one

But I have a chronic case and

it's high time I admit it

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Andy Bachman's avatar

Amen

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Julie Zuckerman's avatar

Beautiful essay, Andy. Thanks for writing…(runs to go buy those books by Grossman, Brooks and Senior)…

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Andy Bachman's avatar

Thank you, Julie! Enjoy those books — they’re special.

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susan goldberg's avatar

Having just returned from a memorial service for a friend who, after 4 years, succumbed to ALS, your piece really speaks to me. Grief comes in all forms and changes as time passes, although it never fully goes away. I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you. (And I don’t sleep well either!)

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susan goldberg's avatar

Thank you. He was a remarkable man gone too soon.

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Andy Bachman's avatar

I am so sorry for your loss. Yes to continuing to make space for grief and for the lessons we reluctantly learn but absorb with hope.

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TOM BACHTELL's avatar

Am glad and heartened to read your words this morning, Andy, even if my waking brain is scrambling to take it all in. Heartened by your wrestling with the grief and horror of our current moment. Encouraged to continue loving and creating and remembering and learning, myself. Love, Tom

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Andy Bachman's avatar

Thanks for reading, Tom. I so appreciate it.

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Bryanna's avatar

You truly amaze me with your writing, Andy!

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Andy Bachman's avatar

I love that we have remained in touch. Here is hoping you are well!

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CHRISTINE PAULL's avatar

Wonderful, absolute kind words of wisdom. Rabbi, thank you.

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